I realise I have hit a snag. As I sit to write about psychosynthesis I can't help but introduce systemic family constellations (or constellations for short). Why? Because for me the two go hand in hand. And if I write biscuit sized pieces on psychosynthesis I can not but mention constellations.
So having briefly introduced psychosynthesis I find myself having to talk about constellations. Why, because whilst Psychosynthesis looks at the individual, Constellations looks at the whole.
Constellations, as developed by Bert Hellinger is a wonderful method to explore the individual within the whole. In today world we are so caught up with individualism that we forget that we are all embedded in systems. These systems may be our family, workplace, culture or heritage. Not just the personal, e.g. your family but also the professional and so your workplace is also a system you operate within. The whole within which we are embedded.
Why look at the system?
Often we can work hard on ourselves and despite our best efforts things don't change. Yes there is always more personal work that can be done, however it could be useful to zoom out and focus our curiosity on the system. This respectful and humble curiosity can reveal patterns that repeat generation after generation also referred to as transgenerational entanglements that get passed. Recent research seems to indicate that there is a biological dimension to this as well. (See guardian article)
How does it help to hold this holistic perspective?
What is honest and respectful of constellations is that it does not promise happy families or to make things better. The suggestion is that becoming aware of these dynamics we can come to a new and possibly more supportive relationship to them. What has happened, the past can not be undone. But how we choose to relate to, and be in relationship with the past can possibly release us and bring us to more nurturing and supportive place in relationship to others.
Systemic Family Constellations is deeply honest and respectful approach that allows us to see the bigger picture using the systemic lens. A lens that may possibly allow us to come into a more peaceful and nurturing stance with system (family) and it's members.
So as I share these bite sized biscuits I'll be drawing not only on psychosynthesis but also on constellations.